Keep your friends, and by friends I am including family and anyone who sticks with you and helps to support you.
When you are first diagnosed, you find out who your real friends are. Some of your friends will disappear like snow in summer. Let them go. They were never your real friends.
Of course, it is very sad for them if they can’t handle your illness, or if they’re just too busy with their children and their jobs and their houses to see past the disability to the person, who has not changed from the friend they knew last week.
But you won’t have the energy to deal with their issues as well as your own, so make a decision to only spend time and trouble with people you want to spend time with and who want to be with you.
The others are lost to you. Accept it. It’s not your problem.
The friends and family who stay in touch, who phone you up to go for a drink or just for a chat, are your most important resource, because they remind you that you are still you and have not sprouted another head.
They might do your shopping if you’re ill, but that is not the point – you can pay a stranger to do that! They are your pleasure and your belongingness. Treasure them.